Is it okay to not want sex?
“I just thought I was a broken gay guy for 20 years.”
When Cody Daigle-Orians first posted a video on TikTok, outing himself as asexual, he immediately received hundreds of comments from young ace (asexual) people saying “Wow, I didn’t know ace adults existed!” He was 42 back then.
In our culture, love and sex are dominant themes everywhere you look – in movies, books, advertisements, conversations with friends, expectations imposed by the family…
Many of us, including folks in the diversity-aware queer community, have never called into question whether the need for physical and romantic intimacy actually applied to everyone.
It does not.
In this episode, actor and playwright Cody shares his journey of self-discovery, from identifying as a gay man with a “problem” to living life as a confident, out-and-authentic homoromantic ace person.
Ace, homoromantic… say whaaaat? If your head is spinning from all the unfamiliar terms: No worries, we’ll explain all of them and more in the episode. Which is Cody’s specialty.
Through his social-media-based educational project called “Ace Dad Advice”, Cody is busy busting myths and giving an authentic voice to the ace community. He particularly aims at supporting young people questioning their sexual and romantic needs and letting them know: You are not broken, your experience is valid as it is.
Cody’s first book, “I AM ACE: ADVICE ON LIVING YOUR BEST ACE LIFE”, will come out in January 2023.
photo courtesy of Cody Daigle-Orians